Size does NOT matter !

Relax, relax, Reeeelaaaxxx !. It’s not that type of topic๐Ÿ˜†. How inappropriate of you to even allow such things to cross your mind๐Ÿ˜€. Where’s you ladiness ?( I’m pretty sure this isn’t a word)๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜‚.

So I wore this very corporate outfit some time last week and a lot of people loved it. This got me thinking about just how wrong the whole gear would have looked if I was the type of girl who’s obsessed about what size clothing she wears.

Like a lot of my fellow African Sisters I have huge milk jugs,mind you this is post a reduction๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜‚ but that’s a topic for another day. I’m also heavily packed on reverse๐Ÿ˜† but ngiyilambalidlile in the stomach area. I swear I’m flatter than most pancakes๐Ÿคฃ. Whiles this is all juicy it is problematic,very problematic when it comes to buying clothes. What fits well on the bottom or top is guaranteed to be a tent in the waist area whiles what’s great on the waist leaves me breathless on the chest and becomes a bandage on the bottom.ย Having this body type is what led me to making an important and best decision I ever made in my fashion life๐Ÿ˜… : Go into the store and try on stuff. Pick what fits best WITHOUT paying any attention to what size it is .I still have to make adjustment in the waist area but that’s no big deal. At the end of the day my outfits turn out looking well tailored.

These pants are a size 10/12 USA, 36/38 South Africa. Those of you who’ve met me know it’s shocking to think I can wear anything that’s this size. I look like a solid size 6, an 8 if you are judging by the twins and pumpkin back there๐Ÿ˜‚. Imagine how depressed I’d be if I only tried on clothes in sizes I think I should be.

My advice for you today is to let go of any worry about what size you wear. Eat well,drink plenty of water and when it comes to shopping ; simply walk into the store and grab three various sizes of each item you want,try them on and choose the best fitting one, NOT the smallest/closest to the size you think you should be. ย Trust me you are not only going to start feeling more comfortable in your clothes,you’ll actually look much slimmer,sleeker and very well put together !!!. Say NO to looking like a stuffed sausage๐Ÿ˜‚.

Side note : I didn’t adjust the waist on these pants. I’ve just been using a safety pin๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ˜‚. I do a lot of this if the item allows๐Ÿ˜€ because I like giving my used ( gently so and well kept๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜š) clothing to my family and sometimes followers who may need the waist in its original form. Well gosh I’ve written a thesis๐Ÿ˜ญ. Happy Tuesday ! . Please do share your thoughts on this and or your shopping habits in general.



Blog Comments

So true. Pity we all want to be size 32 and 34. I am at peace with whatever size as long as I look good and am comfy. Slay on…. we continue toning and keeping healthy.

I needed to read this..
Ohhhh but I love reading your posts, not forgetting how much I crack up while reading through.
The outfit looks so Fab on you. XOXO

I still struggle getting skinny jeans that fit me perfectly, I am a size 38/40 and usually those sizes have legs that are not perfectly tight and are usually longer ๐Ÿ™

Wow yes so true, size does not matter when it comes to clothing. I like fitting before I buy because i hate going back to exchange anything at the shops. Your outfit is boss, I particularly like the pants. I would pair it with a tank top/vest mainly because anginayo iburst & Im short so I wouldn’t want to look like I’m drowning. Thank you for the tips quite inspiring…

This topic hey, I recently went into the store to buy formal pants gosh my thighs looked double I was so sad after trying them on but I needed them. I always look at clothing items and imagine a slimmer me in them, sadly it never is the case. Haibo Buhle I’m shocked that trouser is that size. I thought its probably 32 or 34, this just proved to me size doesn’t really matter. Will try your tips when I go shopping next time especially how I look at myself.

I guess this was meant for me, the way I worry if I like something and my hips and big bums doesn’t allow me to wear my size๐Ÿ˜ขhhaai ke safety pin siyabangena from now on.๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ™Œ look how lovely your pants are ngeke usho ukuthi ufincize ngespeletu. lol thank you mntase I shall never be bothered by my caravan anymore. Size does not matter!!!๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

that me yesterday infact my life story. i really don’t understand how i have moved from a size 10/12 to a full size 14. i refused to buy tht dress and it was the only well fitting dress. like size really does matter to me but after your post i will look into it. uyazi phela thina sizikala ngo size owuqhokayo and a size bigger it like you attracting “whooo usuyisdudla shame size 14 wonke pho” .

thank you this means alot to us fatty bodies

Beautiful Booslay Thank You ngale Post ingivule amehlo

you are a queen.. it suits you

you looked beautiful. i like the way the pants fit you.

This is the best advice I have ever received. Thank you. Cuts differ so size obsession is a sure way to depression. I have to learn to fit ๐Ÿ˜จ. I hate shopping so bad that if I need a formal black dress I walk into a shop, grab size 12, pay and go home.

I will simply say ,you are the best….i love your sense of humour ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚and HOW you tell your stories ……. withregards to my size and shopping stories :My tops should be medium and trousers small……and im fine with it

So true mina i also have big milk jugs but yooh kuyafiwa isishwapha and the problem is buying stuff that will be comfy both sizes.Not all of us will be a size 30 my problem is tummy im trying but its slow.
will try taking outfits according to how they fit not cause of my size.
To me being comfortable is important than size.

You look stunning baby

Mina i have the same problem njengo Noma. I struggle getting skinny jeans that fit me perfectly, I am a size 38/40 and 1.72 tall and usually those sizes have legs that are not perfectly tight and very short for me. So i end up buying New Feeling jeans ko Small street.

I am so sharing this with my younger sister think it will help her shop so much better and really diversify her wardrobe + looks. Thank you for sharing this is really insightful.

Dr Bee you came to my rescue. Thank you very much. I have that problem of not buying something because of its size. If 34 wont fit I just don’t go to 36 no matter how much I love the outfit. Will now keep this in mind.
Thanks you are a Darling

Mna nawe siyafana.


Kwandile Msimango

thanks for the safety pin tip, I have pants in my drawer that I only wore twice because njalo when I wear them as much as engimpintsha ngingakwazi nokuphefumula the minute i start walking they seem to go down because they were loose kwi waist. Tomorrow nje ngizobe ngizimpintshe ngawo.

Thank you sis Buhle for this, it’s always depressing trying sizes that you think for you and when you put them on it’s actually the opposite. Now I know I’m not alone I always felt disappointed when I wanted something in a particular size and it doesn’t for, but now I know that shouldn’t be the case and shouldn’t beat myself up for that.

Thank you sis B for this, I think a lot of us are suffering from the disease of getting hurt/disappointed when we want something in a particular size and it doesn’t fit. Its truly heartbreaking thank you for this.

Hey Buhle,like all your post,well those ive read,lol..this is one inspirational post. I’m not build like you,thou I wish I was..The reserve and milk and all,but I am slim figure with a tint of a reserve๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ™ˆ,and not so pan-cakey size (also doubt this word exists๐Ÿ˜)but I’d I just wanna say that in someway I do relate wih topic when t comes to finding clothes that fit well in all 3 areas. And having to go an extra size or two always scared me (im a size 6 by the way)but after this,im definitely going to try it out. Thank you๐Ÿ˜Š

๐Ÿ’ญ..I have never thought of clothes/size this way. All along I have been robbing myself, buying a size smaller with the desire to fit into the clothes sooner, which hasn’t happened .. this feels like an aha moment.. thank you Bโ™ฅ

I hate going to the shops because I hate going to fitting rooms but after this blog I am going to do it. Thanks Buhle

Thank you Dr Bee. This post is useful. I will use the tips you’ve shared next time when I go shopping. I can’t be robbing myself beautiful outfits because of size. I’ve been making a mistake of buying smaller sizes because in my mind I still see myself as a size 30/32.

Have d same dilemma, big top n bottom n small waist. Buying jeans is traumatic. But I agree buy what fits forget d size besides if u r concern u can always remove d size tag sistaz, just saying

Thanks sis, you have no idea how much I myself needed to hear that. When I walk into the store especially your “international ” stores like H&M, Zara etc. I always end up with their last size which is 38/40. I would tell myself that I’d rather die than wear size 40, that’s my mama’s size tch. Now after this post , like for real who cares what size you wear? Who even checks or sees your size? Comfort ability is what matters most. You’re true inspiration, keep them post coming๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ˜˜

Thank you for the advice…I have a problem on the hip area,most of my clothes needs adjustment becoz hips dololo!!,I ll try the safety pin trick…I ‘d love to see you more on denim outfits..pleasaaase!!

Recently went to Woolworths and bought those stretchy tight pants and unfortunately ive always been size conscious.
Ngaphuma ngi traumatized cos my size wasn’t fitting and in my head i just labelled myself obese.
Thank you for this Buhle…sometimes we lose sight of what is important (keeping ourselves healthy)…and we forget to give ourselves credit when it due because that particular size we want still doesn’t fit.

I love this Booslay!๐Ÿ’™

Thanks for words of encouragement, being a plus-size with a small upper body sometimes is a problem. Will try this next time I go shopping.

Shopping for clothes, I can never do without my sisters help its such a drag. Thank you for this post ๐Ÿ˜ it’s just depressing when you trying to loose weight and the size of the clothes says nah!nah!

I’m such a content 36/38, anginaStress!! It used to worry me ukuthi umuntu odlula nginekile uzobabaza ethini, but who cares!!? I look good! Thank you for affirming what I once thought was shameful <3

Lovely advice, and you always look classy Booslay ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Pertinent post!!!

I love this. Thanks Sis B

great advice tx

๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚this post got me turning upside down in my fashion hall. I can’t go beyond a size 10 back loaded as I am. Never! I rather not buy or buy for one day I will fit in these. So it keeps me on my toes with my eating habits and general lifestyle issues. As for the safety pins, I die.

Wow. great blog! this advice will be used.

wow thank you, really, l always look at the size l guess now l will not do so cause of my hips, its almost impossible to get the right size


Nthabiseng Mokhethi

Thanks for sharing this. I feel good after reading this.


Nthabiseng Mokhethi

Thanks for sharing this. I feel good after reading this.

Amazing! Do u write all these posts by yourself?? You are such a creative and perfect writer. The more I read your blogs the more I feel inspired by your realness and attitude in life and not just your beauty…keep writting sisi. We really appreciate it. Love you!!

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